If you are not a naturally reflective person, it can be hard to even comprehend the point of it. You are probably a more action oriented, just get it done kind of person. Countless research, including the study we did for our first book Real Leaders for the World highlights the benefits of some reflection and that successful people use it well, to help them be even more successful...
You are training people, all the time, on how to treat you. Your behaviour constantly gives other people messages, some subtle and some less so, about how to behave towards you and how to communicate with you...
Many people strive for happiness, the self development world is packed with top tips to silence your demons and think positively. These are all well intended but also concerning, the preoccupation of obliterating any so called negative feelings doesn’t make you happy, it can just store up problems for later...
All or nothing people are often very happy to tell you that, and there are many things all or nothing people do well. They can be highly committed and enthusiastic about things making them an inspiring and creative leader, employee or life partner...
In what seems an increasingly politically correct world, people can be accused of bullying just because someone takes offence at their viewpoint. Is there any place for straight talking at all in this day and age? ...
It’s a sad fact that eating our lunches at our desk has become an accepted norm. Apart from being unhealthy - just think of all those germs and rotting bits of food that fall onto your desk or trapped in your keyboard...
Small talk, in particular, is littered with land mines when it comes to putting your foot in it...
When someone is struggling, it is natural to feel for them if you are a caring, kind person. There is an important difference in how you deal with this feeling. Sympathy is the ability to feel concern for someone else but not the ability to step into their shoes and experience it from their perspective...
Anyone can experience burnout. It creeps up on you slowly and the results can be devastating. Burnout is commonly linked to stress and overwork and is particularly common in professions where there is a lot of emotional caring involved like medical professions, coaching, psychotherapy, people that work in care homes, carers, leaders and managers...
When the internet was born people were excited about it’s potential for sharing information easily, we were all going to be better informed and increase our knowledge. What was not predicted was the extent of misinformation, lies and errors there are on the web...
We all know them, the space invaders and the time suckers. To deal with people who waste your time you need to become highly skilled creating and maintaining good healthy boundaries. Boundaries are the physical, mental and emotion ‘line’ between us and other people...
Did you know that other people are picking up information from you ALL the time? Even if you aren’t speaking or doing anything, you are still communicating. Many people don’t know the unconscious messages they are giving out, partly because you can’t watch yourself the whole time...
