Blog tag: relationships

If you work in a warm and friendly team environment, the chances are you have a number of affiliation driven people in your team. Harvard Psychologist David McLelland defined three primary motives that drive people Power, Achievement and Affiliation which are the key to understanding behaviour in the workplace… All…

Do you find it hard to say no? The problem many people have with saying no is that they don’t want to offend or upset people, or they are afraid it will damage the relationship in some way. Here are some top tips for saying no and being polite from…

It is all too easy for our social life and family time to end up as the ‘thing we do when everything else is done’. And yet if people were asked on their death bed, what they wished they’d done more of in their life – very few people would…

Have you ever wondered why the projects that excite you don’t seem to appeal to other people? Why some people love certain elements of their job that other people hate? Why ‘motivational’ talks inspire some people and turn off others?… The key is in that we are all motivated differently…

Visualisation techniques are so popular nowadays that Coaches, Trainers, and Consultants use them freely without considering that they might not work for everyone. They are commonly used for setting goals, business and personal and in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) they are used extensively for anchoring techniques, phobia cure and for…

Our minds love stories, some social psychologists believe it’s a major contributor to our evolution over other animals. The use of stories and fables to teach and pass on important information through generations is well documented. It has prevented us as a species having to re learn skills that have…

You are training people, all the time, on how to treat you. Your behaviour constantly gives other people messages, some subtle and some less so, about how to behave towards you and how to communicate with you… Whether or not you respect your own time and how you behave around…

All or nothing people are often very happy to tell you that, and there are many things all or nothing people do well. They can be highly committed and enthusiastic about things making them an inspiring and creative leader, employee or life partner… ‘All or nothing people’ are either in…

It’s a sad fact that eating our lunches at our desk has become an accepted norm. Apart from being unhealthy – just think of all those germs and rotting bits of food that fall onto your desk or trapped in your keyboard… Studies have shown that ‘working through’ lunch breaks…

Small talk, in particular, is littered with land mines when it comes to putting your foot in it… If you do a lot of networking or meeting new people you will have been asked a whole host of inappropriate questions, squirmed at bad jokes and despaired at lengthy conversations about…